Married couple David and Lisa disagree about a lot of things. But they don’t have many major arguments. Here's how they keep the peace, and when things do go awry, how the dog helps diffuse the situation
By David and Lisa Fielding; Photograph by Lindsay Swanson
WHAT WE FIGHT OVER
Lisa: I remember my mom saying once that most marital arguments are about money. I'd say I agree with that, especially since our paycheques all go into one account. I've also learned to realize that when you say something like, "I need to buy an iPhone" or "I think the dog needs a new pea coat," you're just day dreaming out loud. So I've stopped getting upset. David: Actually, there was a study last year that found that couples have roughly 182 arguments a year, and that most of them involve household chores, not listening to each other or lack of sex. Maybe it's a good thing that we're arguing about money. Speaking of which, I'd like an iPhone. Lisa: Don't get me started.
ON LOSING
David: I must admit, I don't like losing. That's why I sometimes pause the argument, in order to recoup. I'll say, "You know, you might be right," then as soon as you're not looking I'll race over to the laptop to Google it. When you don't hear back, it's because you were right. Lisa: I would love to win once in a while. Then I can stop picking fights where I know I'll win. David: Maybe you ought to get Google on your side.
ON WINNING
David: That same survey said that dating couples manage to avoid arguments by jumping into bed together. I think we should try that. Lisa: That would work for us. Seeing as you'd be asleep and snoring exactly three seconds after your head hits the pillow. David: Speaking of which, is it okay to go to bed angry? Personally, I secretly enjoy being banished to the couch. Until you let me get HD in the bedroom, it's the only chance I get to watch late night TV. Lisa: Do not get me started.
